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This is one of the emails that our sex guru received. This is a real
problem and I am glad that he sent us this email.
Hello,
I'm not sure where to start. I am kind of shy about telling
you about this. I have never talked to anyone about my sex
life before. Not even with my buddies. I guess I don't like
to kiss and tell. I am with this great woman. She is the
best thing that ever happened to me. She gives me sex when
ever I want it. She will have sex 24/7 if I ask her to.
The problem is, when she gives me oral, she sucks too hard. It
is like she is trying to suck a pea through my penis. It
actually hurts a lot. I have had a sore penis for three
weeks now because of this. She actually sucks it so hard the
head of my penis is sore.
What can I do to stop this?
Thanks,
Matt,
Thanks for the email Matt. We love to hear from your
readers. It makes me feel like we are actually providing a
service to all of you guys out there.
You need to make sure that you are able to talk freely in
the bedroom. This is a must. If you can't talk in the
bedroom, chances are you can't talk about anything in your
relationship. Communication is very important in a
relationship. If you don't talk, it won't last. She is more
than a vagina, she should be your best friend. You wake up
to this woman every day, you should be able to enjoy her. If
you can't, I would say that it isn't worth the amount of
time that you invest in her. That is a sad thing, but it is
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First, I would suggest to you that you evaluate your
communication. If you think it is good, then move on from
there. If it isn't, then you need to have a conversation
about it. You need to tell her that you need to be able to
speak your mind. There is no need to be in a relationship
that you can't discuss your feelings. If you feel that you
are able to be open with her. Tell her that she is hurting
you. Don't be full of anger when you tell her. Tell her
nicely. She will react in a positive manner. There is no
reason to open a can of whip ass on her.
This is what I would do.
Start off with a nice dinner. Cook it yourself if you know how to cook. Set
the mood, buy some candles and incense. Make the meal as romantic as you can.
Cook things that you can feed each other. Fix oysters or finger sandwiches. |
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Take
her up to the room for some great sex. Tell her
that you want to tell her what to do. Make it like a role
playing game. If she sucks on you too hard, tell her that she
is sucking too hard. Tell her that it hurts and to suck more
gently. She will do it if you tell her nicely.
During this time, tell her nicely that she was sucking on
you too hard. Be gentle and tell her how you like it. Tell
her if you like your balls rubbed while she is doing it.
Allow yourself to enjoy what she is doing to you. Get loose,
if it feels good moan. If she hears you moaning, she will
know to keep it up. That will be her signal that she is
doing a good job. As always, try to keep a free and open
line for communication.
There is no reason not to. If either of you aren't being
pleased in bed, you should be able to say something about
it. If you don't, well Matt, get used to having a sore
penis.
The next question came from Mantu. It is a simple and short question: "What
are the side effects of masturbating?"
Hello,
Thanks for your question. Side effects are different for men and women and
depends on your health, body size, hormones etc.
I assume your are a male.
Masturbation is a healthy sexual behaviour and excellent stress reliever. Like
other behaviors, when over practiced or addicted it can lead to physiological
imbalances.
The side effects of such changes to the body might include: Fatigue. Feeling
tired all the time
Lower back pain, Stress / Anxiety, Thinning hair / Hair Loss, Soft / Weak
Erection, Premature Ejaculation
Eye floaters or fuzzy vision, Groin / Testicular Pain, Pain or cramp in the
pelvic cavity or/and tail bone and in some cases blood in the sperm.
If above symptoms are experienced, you need to restore the balance of brain's
acetylcholine / parasympathetic ratio, reduces the level of sex hormones in the
body, and sedates sympathetic nervous function, or the symptoms would become
worse.
Also this is something new: Two medical specialists have suggested a link
between masturbation and physical abnormalities due to zinc-deficiency.
They said: "The amount of zinc in semen is such that one ejaculation may get rid
of all the zinc that can be absorbed from the intestines in one day. This has a
number of consequences. Unless the amount lost is replaced by an increased
dietary intake, repeated ejaculation may lead to a real zinc deficiency with
various problems developing, including impotence.
It is even possible, given the importance of zinc for the brain, that 19th
century moralists were correct when they said that repeated masturbation could
make one mad!"
I repeat it. The above effects might occur if you over do it. How much
masturbation is to much? It depends on your body.
I hope it helped a little,
My wife and I like swingers sex stories and thinking and talking about
swinging a lot. However she is NOT inclined to "open" our
marriage. She has said that she is worried that I might find "better" and
leave her, or, vice versa.
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