The next message submitted by Christina.
Your website says that upon reaching maturity women do not have wet dreams.
I can't be the only one. I have orgasms in my sleep and they wake me up, I
put my hand down there and it is going. I am 28.
When I was 7 years old I went to the park and they had rings (like the
Olympic rings). Anyway, I lifted myself up and lifted my knees and started
feeling an intense sensation in my vagina. I held myself long enough and had
my first orgasm. Nothing was even touching me down there. So then I began
experimenting.
There was also a pole in the park. So I held on to the pole wrapped my legs
around it and pulled myself up. I would slowly pull myself up as far as I
could quickly go back down and then slowly pull up again. It felt the best
as I went up. I t usually took about 20 seconds to have an orgasm. I had a
favorite tree in my back yard. I felt a lot of shame about this at the time.
There as a nub in the tree and a branch above. I would pull myself up on the
nub and rub on it. I would do this sometimes five or six times a day.
When I became sexually active instead of having orgasms the traditional I
told my partner about what I could do. So he would sit on the edge of the
bed. I would wrap my legs around him, wrap my arms around his neck and pull
up on his penis, (it never entered me).
Now, as an adult I have dreams where I am pulling up on anything. Sometimes
a person, sometimes an object. These dreams are so real and the sensations
exactly the same as in real life. Like I said I wake up having an orgasm and
I am gushing.
Have you ever heard of anyone being able to do this? My record of orgasms in
a row over about an hour period was 17. My partner was very giving.
Thanks for your time.
Christina
Hello Christina,
Thanks for your mail.
You wrote it: "Your website says that upon reaching maturity women do not
have wet dreams." Well Healthier Sex Lives is not my website, I am just
their advisor... but I would like to see that page. Can you please let me
know the URL?
However have a wet dream or have orgasm in your sleep is two different
things. The wet dream is when someone urinate in the bed while sleeping -
dreaming. You know how it is feel having orgasms while you are sleeping - so
I don't need to talk about this one.
Some women can't achieve orgasm and you wrote that, your record is 17 in an
hour. Every 90 seconds a new climax...
I think for one reason or other, you are addicted to orgasm, actually to clitoral orgasm. You or your partner can stimulate your
clitoris in a number of different ways. For example by rubbing, sucking,
body pressure, etc. Usually you use body pressure to achieve climax by
rubbing your clitoris too anything hard. Your clitoris can also be
stimulated during sexual intercourse, (the easiest way to do it with the
woman on top) the clitoris is rubbed against the man's pubic bone. It can
also be achieved via missionaries position (the man is on top) and if he
experienced lover enough to position himself high, so that his pubic bone
presses against his partner's clitoral area. You or your partner can also
stimulate your clitoris with fingers during intercourse to help bring you to
orgasm.
There is an erotic dating website on the net, they have several good
sex position advice for women only. I know you do not have any problem to
achieve orgasm, however you have to think about your sex partner pleasure too.
A major theme for all your orgasmic addictions is that you might have
experienced profound and chronic need deprivation throughout your childhood.
Addicts in general sustain emotional injury within the realm of the
mother-infant interaction as well as with other relationships. Intense
interpersonal anxiety is the result of this early-life emotional need
deprivation. In later life, the person experiences anxiety in all intimate
relationships. Because majority of the sex - orgasm - addict has anxiety
about being unable to get what she / he needs from real people and because a
orgasm addict search for the fulfillment of unmet childhood needs inevitably
end in disillusionment, the orgasm addict person inevitably returns to her /
his reliance on sexual fantasies and enactments to alleviate anxiety about
connection and intimacy and as a way to achieve a sense of self-affirmation.
This is the explanation for your orgasmic dreams.
There are treatments available for your problem. Men more often are getting
addictive to orgasm than women, but the treatment is the same.
If I were you, I would try to
find a sex partner (or even more then one) who can serve your sexual needs and maybe in a period of
time if you will get all the sexual pleasure what you need from real people,
your dreams just will go a way. If this wont work, or you don't want to try,
there is therapy to help sexual - orgasmic addictive people. You can visit
sex therapist in person, or one of the best is
available on-line too.
And here at the end, I have to repeat myself. You have to think about your
sex partners too. You can achieve orgasm in a short period of time, but you
need to give pleasure for your sex partner too, or they just will run a way
and you will have to start to have erotic dreams again.
LoveCentria have all sex related information that
anyone needs to know how can him / herself and his or her sex partner make
and keep happy. Visit them and sex - educate
sex - educate
yourself!
I hope it helped a little.
Greetings,
Peter
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